Begin with one everyday pattern. Move from noticing your reaction to choosing what you want to do next. Explore each step below.
01 / Recognise
Notice the pattern. Without judging yourself.
What happened? What did you feel? What did you immediately want to do? Awareness is the starting point.
A moment from everyday life
“When someone doesn’t reply, I notice myself checking my phone again and again.”
Name the pattern. Not a flaw.
02 / Externalise
You have a feeling. You are not the feeling.
Practise describing an emotion as an experience you are having, rather than making it your whole identity.
A small shift in language
“I notice anxiety arising” instead of “I am an anxious person.”
Acknowledge it. Make a little space.
03 / Witness
Let the thought pass. You don’t have to follow.
Pause and notice your body, thoughts and urges. There is no need to empty your mind or make a feeling disappear.
A moment to pause
“My shoulders are tense. My mind is telling a story. I can notice it before acting.”
Eyes open, eyes closed, or a gentle pause.
04 / Interpret
Separate the facts from the story.
Explore other explanations without forcing positivity or dismissing real concerns. What do you know, and what are you assuming?
Same event, another possibility
“No reply yet is a fact. ‘They don’t care’ is an interpretation. I may need more information.”
Be balanced. Not blindly positive.
05 / Respond
Choose the next step that respects you.
A conscious response can be a question, a pause, a repair or a clear boundary. Practise the words you actually want to use.
From reaction to response
“I’ll pause, decide what I need, and ask for clarity instead of sending another frustrated message.”
Calm can still have a backbone.
06 / Empower
Make the change small. Make it yours.
Choose one repeatable action within your control. Give yourself a cue to practise and permission to begin again.
Your everyday commitment
“The next time I feel the urge to react, I’ll take a short pause before choosing my next words.”
Practice, not perfection.
The e-book
REWIRE Daily Practice Workbook
21 days for each letter
By Dr. DeepaShree
Make a little space for yourself each day. Explore all six REWIRE stages through 126 guided exercises, with prompts to notice your patterns and practise a more conscious response.